LAST MOMENT

Dear Friend,

Someone asked me ‘Princess, what do you think about Michael Jackson?’

‘I think he was great!’ I replied. I thought we would leave it that way but this person was not done yet.

‘Princess,’

‘Yes’

‘Do you believe that he will go to heaven?’

‘Who?’

‘Michael Jackson. Are you sure he is fit for heaven?’

I paused and thought for a while. I knew I must give an answer. So I said; ‘Let God be the one to determine that’

It is so amazing how people are fast in judging others. It is so sad to discover that those who are experts in condemning others are the ones with worst crimes ever.

We are here on earth to make a mark, to create meaning to other people’s lives.

We are not here to destroy unless we decide to do this. Our lives are not just for us alone but to bless others, to make life worth living for others, to share love, laughter, helping hands, smile, and many wonderful things of life together.

And that was what Michael Jackson did. He came and proved his destiny beyond doubt.  

There is no doubt that we are also aware of this part of our lives that portraits our weaknesses. Michael Jackson had his, I have mine and of course, you have yours.  Every human on planet earth has individual weakness that may be one or multiple. And because Michael’s weakness worked against his good nature while he was alive does not or cannot be the ultimate fact for anyone to conclude that he was a bad man.

Last night, I sat throughout his memorial. My internet connection went off and I have to reconnect it again before I was able to watch the entire live event. Believe me, I lost myself to tears.

During her speech at the memorial, US Congress Lady, Sheila Jackson Lee emphasised so hard on some people’s focus on Michael Jackson’s weakness. She concluded by saying Michael was ‘innocent until proven guilty’ she said it right.  

I would like to add to this by saying that judging people for their weaknesses is wrong. We must not be pushed to doing this when we know within our privacies that we have our own weaknesses.

Let us focuses more on trying to make life better and sweeter for those around us, in our world and also for ourselves.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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SOUND OF SIN

Oh God, why me? Why me? Why me…

I have heard that many times after times and when I heard this, I used to ask myself; why is it that people tend to confront God for the issues in their lives?

I mean why do we blame God for everything as if He is the culprit? And we may even get it far by gradually hating ourselves without knowing this.

We have asked God why things happened and because we feel that there are no answers to that, unknowingly we begin to feel as if we are worst off and that it is better that we don’t love ourselves anymore.

When problems come your way, instead of sitting down and brooding over the issues, which can lead you to nothing but frustration, why don’t you take this to God in an unusual calm way?

It is best for you if you can stop asking God unnecessary question; ‘WHY ME’ because you and I know that God is not the author of evil.

You don’t have to get yourself into that low-level profile of hating yourself even if the fault comes from you. You can pick up every fallen piece of your life and mould out the best of you from it.

After all, your life is not over until you decide that you want to end it. You need to understand that problems in your life don’t just appear like that to torment you; they help you to develop, to learn more about what this life holds and to build the real you from it.

So l implore you to stop this ‘why me’! Stop pointing accusing finger at God for nothing! It is a sound of sin! 

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Princess Ayelotan

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE (3)

 

Dear Friend,

The two past editions focused on four groups of people on planet earth and why you must not identify yourself with Watchers, which is the last group.

This is the final edition and I’m going to briefly highlight below what you must do to get rid of Watchers in your life (that is if you have any).

1)      Stop COMPLAINING, go into ACTION! It is like you are supposed to get a project done and when you embark on it, you get tired and decide to stop, and pushing it aside for a while. This is what Watchers do!

I bet you don’t expect any result from any abandon project, do you? What you don’t work for can never be meaningful to you. If you want to get to a stage in your life that you can boldly say; ‘I have arrived’, then you must put on the shoes of perseverance, of patience, of hardworking, and to stay optimistic.

2)     Get yourself focused. I remember I told you that Watchers are just lazy and busy-bodies to have time for productivity in their lives. This is where you must be different. Focus on what will profits you and your future. If a Watcher comes to you complaining about how another friend of yours tends to make it more than him, please, tell him off. You don’t have to do this with anger but be wise to avoid getting involved.

3)     Be Optimistic. When the Watchers around you are cursing rich people that you knew or not, do not join them. You will do yourself more harms when you involve in topics like that. Instead, appreciate the rich and then the Universe will favour you too.

You don’t or cannot see anyone in the Achievers’ group wasting his or her time over unprofitable topics. They don’t have time, believe me. Achievers love their works with all their lives because they knew how important successes mean to them.

4)     Gone and gone were those days when you will need the help of the entire church members to come and settle the dispute between you and your spouse or your children. STOP reporting to outsiders what goes on in YOUR HOME! If you have a problem, go to God in prayer.  Nothing is too big that God is too small to handle. Talking out bring even bigger problems that you may never be able to solve. Everybody has the ability to misinterpret what you tell them. All you need it God’s wisdom and of course self-control.  You have that God-given ability inside of you to settle troubles in your home. Watchers will only be happy to help you further destroy the joy you long for in your home.

5)     Distinguish yourself. To be at that level where your world will be looking at you upward and with awe, then you must be different. Change your pattern of speech. Change your way of dressing; do not fall into the habit of dressing as if you are always in mourning or in poverty. No matter how hard the economy is right now, that does not mean that life is bad after all.  Be clean at every second of the days even at night. You won’t attract goodness to you if you are shabby.

6)     Be positive and kind in your words to your spouse, to your kids, to your family members, to your friends, to your neighbours, and above all, to strangers. Who knows where your successes will be deliver to you.  Get into the habit of loving people genuinely. I met lots of people in my trips and I try to keep record of the numerous emails I got from them so that I can mail at least twice a month. They are wonderful people! And they have been God’s disguised blessings to me in many ways.

7)     Finally, I want you to fall in love with MONEY! Do not laugh because this is serious. STOP squeezing money bill into your purse, bag or pocket. Ensure you stretch it neat before you put it into your purse. Be kind with money and it will be kind to you. Respect money and it will respect you and come to you. If you treat each bill of money in your hand anyhow, it will flee from you. DO NOT finish or spend the entire money you have in your purse or wallet. Leave at least a currency bill………soon I will explain this fully in another topic.

 

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE (2)

Dear Friend,

 Last week, I mentioned the four groups of people and I warned you about why you must flee from being among this group; WATCHERS.

Today, I am going to elaborate further on this group. I want you to read this carefully. Watchers, though is in plural, I am going to refer to it as single. This group has the highest population of lazy ones, the thieves, the ready-to-destroy, the talkative, and so goes the list. 

Watchers love to criticise others. It is the people in this group who don’t notice the good happenings in the society. They are the ones who love to sit back in their homes and curse others who are busy working so hard to progress in their lives.

Have you even seen how rowdy and rough a city can be in the morning between 8am and 10am in the morning? Have you noticed how people struggled to cramp into the commercial buses, trains and trams in hurry to get earlier to their offices. If you are like me, you will understand faster. The way this throng of people are in the morning is the way I want you to compare this group; Watchers. They are so jam-packed that each of them tries to climb on top of another in an attempt to escape the group and the more an effort, the more the others pull the person back. It takes the grace of God to anyone in this group to escape out of it.

This is a congested and over-populated group. Do not try to join them. Watchers don’t care about getting out of bed even at 10am in the morning on week days. Watchers don’t bother about how to invest for their families. Watchers are the one who enjoy gossips beyond doubt. Watchers don’t think of repaying their debts, rather, they would fight with the creditors as if these persons made mistakes lending them the money in the first instance. Watchers love to waste, they love to bring you down and that is if you allow them.

Watchers are the one who will advice you on how to rule your house, they will advise you on how to handle your children, and they will even go a mile to warn you about confiding in your wife or husband.

Be careful, Friend, so that if you have a friend with the same above description, then I implore you to flee.    

If you are not aware of this, then note this; a Watcher-friend will never be genuinely happy if you are successfully above him or her in all areas of your life.

What then must you do to get rid of Watchers in your life?

Wait until next edition.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE

 

Dear friend,

 

Greetings from Takt Residency in Berlin, Germany and feel free to check my events via this link;

http://www.princessayelotanwithtakt.wordpress.com

 

Now back to the topic;

Friend, do you know that life happens to each of us differently? Yesterday, I was writing when a thought came to my mind but I waved it aside because this was personal.

Then this morning, I thought over it again and that got me thinking that I need to share it with you.  I have had many people asking me, ‘Princess, how did you do this or how were you able to get that?’ They are people who care to know and I bet they mean well.  And on the other side, there are these groups of folks who don’t or can’t just understand why someone should be different from them.

A friend of mine once called this; envy.  

To live your life worrying over another person’s achievement is a mere waste. I think you can make use of those times preciously.

Do you know what brings success to someone? It is not a gift that drops down like magic from the sky.  It is that person’s ability to define what he wants for his life. To be successful in every area of your life demands your entire commitment. I don’t believe that some people do not possess the ability to be successful. What I have faith in is that everybody can have a promising life but this comes with tangible prices.

There are four groups of people in life;

1)       Achievers

2)      Steady-troopers

3)      Generation Next

4)      Watchers.  

Among these groups is Watchers, the most troublesome and lousy group, who enjoy criticising the other three groups.  This group holds the largest population of people throughout the world.  They are down, down, in the low level and they tend to see the other three above them as exploiters. The Watchers don’t see anything good when talking about the other three groups.

And do you know why you must flee from joining this Watchers groups?

Watch out for the second part………………

 

Cheers

 

Princess Ayelotan

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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WHERE WE FIND HAPPINESS (2)

 TINA!

I was caught red-handed. I couldn’t lie to because there was no sign of such on me. Somehow, I saved myself.

Why have I been avoiding Tina? She is cool; she’s great and lovely to be with. I just met her two days ago when I arrived in Berlin. Yesterday, she informed me about going to the Sunday Open market near Bernauser Strasse U-Bahn to purchase a second-hand bicycle she will need until August when she will go back to the US. Then she asked me if I can escort her there. I made it clear to her that I need to work.

I thought she got it right. I never knew I was wrong until this morning when she came knocking on my door. Well, there she was at the dining table, eating her lunch. I knew she purposely waited there, and calmly. She told me she wants me to go to the market with her.

Let’s analyse this together; here is a woman we barely knew each other (we met two days ago) and she is taking on me so suddenly!  The end of the tale is that I had no choice than to go with her. When she bought the bicycle (we got it for 30 Euros on second-hand), I was glad for her.

What do I mean by where we find happiness? Tina found happiness when someone helps her out. It’s been few days we are together now, and she is proving to me, day-by-day that she needs people to complete her happiness.  Listen, if I have not fought and won the battle, I don’t think I will be free from Tina and be able to work, which is the major reason why I am here. She wants me to be everywhere with her!

Are you like Tina? Where do you find your happiness? Do you need anybody to define where you will find it?

Tina is different; I am different, and this is why I strongly believe that the best place to find happiness as individual must first of all be from YOU!  Don’t wait until someone does any help for you before you can think your life is complete.

When your life is filled with happiness, it will transmit to those around you. l make people happy because my entire life is filled with happiness. I don’t need anyone to define it for me. There are moments you will need people but you mustn’t let it becomes a do-or-die affair.

Make it your goal today to find HAPPINESS first for you as individual, then allow the rest to follow.

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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WHERE WE FIND HAPPINESS (1)

 

Dear Friend,

Tina* was at the kitchen table when I came out of my studio this morning. As soon as I saw her, I wanted to make a quick U-turn. She caught me right on time.

‘Hey good morning, Princess!’ I heard her, and then I remembered I mumbled few words giving excuse like I forgot something in the room. I was lucky she didn’t push me any further. I fled!

Back in my studio, I sat on the bed thinking of what next to do. I want to use the restroom, and to get there, I have to walk through the kitchen. I knew Tina will still be there. I decided to wait for a while. I was lucky she was back in her studio when I came out.

The moment I was done; I rushed back. Two hours later, I heard a soft knock on my door. I paused from my work and listened. Then I heard the footsteps going away. Thirty minutes past, I heard the knock and this time her voice. I did not answer.

For the next one hour, I continued working. Sometimes it’s very difficult for anyone to know that I’m indoors. I heard footsteps outside my door, going in the direction of the main exit to the building. I heaved a deep sigh, confirming that Tina is on her way out.

At 12:43, I left my work, going in search of something to chew. Guess who was at the kitchen table………….

Watch out for the concluding part.

Cheers!

*True name changed

 

Princess Ayelotan

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 SHADOW OF THE SUN

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FINDING LOVE IN THE FACE OF NOTHING (2)

 

In the last edition, I mentioned how as a family we all supported my sister during her ordeals. I wonder how many people can stand the test of time by supporting one of theirs at the moments of needs.

This is not to say that everybody is not capable of doing such but the major truth is that there are so many people out there who don’t care if at all one of them is ill or not. They may be aware of that beloved one(s) in urgent need of attention but they will not respond. It may be an act of wickedness or just being ignorant of what it means to care for someone whom we love and who is in dire need of us.

For the next sixteen years while she suffered and battled this sickness, we were there for her. Four years ago, she went to be with the lord. We all missed her but one strong point she left with all us is to extend our affection for everybody who crosses our paths.

We learnt so much while with her. You know even those taking care of the sick ones are equally affected one way or the other even if they did not realized this. The short period she spent with us was not for nothing; it established such strong bond that nobody can dare intrudes.

Have you ever seen someone who tries not to identify himself with a handicap in his household? What comes to your mind if at all you knew such person? Can you be in the same position and thus you tend to do the same?  Tell me, what does life means to you when it comes to taking care of someone you love?

In my entire life, I have witnessed where tens of people tried as much as they could to avoid carrying any responsibilities. I have seen a family who went off to drop their old one at a home for old folks because they just feel that old woman is a burden.

I have heard of mothers self-handedly murdered their handicap children because they are ashamed of living with them. Also I have seen husband who divorced his wife immediately the moment he discovered she has breast cancer.

You want my word on this?  It is very simple; love, love and love your sick ones!

Don’t be shy to show off any sick member of your family to the world if the need arises. Show them love. Let them know that you truly care for them and that you accept them being part of your family.

When you reject them or you try to hide them from public eye, then you are telling them clearly that they don’t belong to the outer world. It equally means that you are indirectly telling them that they made the greatest mistakes of being born. That alone can worsen their situations in some cases.

Many people have committed suicide when they found out that none of their family members love to see them around. Many sick ones have lost hope of recovery because they were made to understand that they don’t belong.

People who are disabled or sick in anyway don’t just get that problem by themselves. Life happens to anybody just about anyhow. You are just lucky that you are hale and healthy.

Why don’t you get into the habit of making life happy and possible for your sick ones and those around in your world?

When you commit your life to putting smile on other people’s faces, more happiness and fulfillment in life will be yours. There is no doubt about this.

 

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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FINDING LOVE IN THE FACE OF NOTHING (1)

 

Dear Friend,

When one of my younger sisters was severely sick, we all thought that it was just for a while and that everything will be fine. That was nineteen years ago. Hardly did we know that we have the longest battle ahead of us.

Her sickness took more than we bargained for. We lost our precious times and energies as we devoted all our attentions on her. We knew that as one of us, we cannot abandon her at these times that she needed us more.  There were nights we took turn in compulsory night-vigils at home to watch over her. We laughed with her when she can; we watched films with her if she wanted; we cried with her when such moments came; we talked health into her life as best as we could. We tried to encourage her to get well. What else did we not apply?

Seeing someone we love and care for in such critical position can be very demanding. Despite, her health deteriorated beyond recognition. Sometimes she hardly could identify any of us even by our names. We kept on loving her regardless of what was happening then. I will always respect my family for the support we all gave my sister during those moments. We refused to put her in seclusion. We believe she belongs to us and we must treat her equally no matter what. We let those friends and neighbours of ours to know that our sister exist and we love her so dearly.

There are so many people like us out there having sick ones in their family, or are you one of them? Many of these people don’t ever want to be identifying with any sick person in their family. They are ashamed to show off their sick ones. Their excuses usually are; what will my friends think of me if they find out that my sister is disable or severely ill? My fiancée will cancels our wedding plans if she discover that my mother is handicapped; no one is going to accept my friendship if they know that my daughter is mentally-ill; or all my colleagues will avoid me once they know that my family and I live on the street, etc.

So these flimsy excuses can go on and on without you finding any true meaning to your life. For instance, if your fiancée cancels your wedding just because she discovered that your mother is handicap, then be happy that she leaves you right on time. You know what? It is better to stick to a woman who will be ready to accept you and your family for who you are.  Why must there be a put –up pretense in this affair?

What are friends for? I believe a friend is someone who stays with you despite all. If your friends flee because your sister is severely sick, then go on to change friends. You are not forced to stay with them. Look for friends who understand your situation and who will love you immensely. The sick ones in every family are not unwanted aliens. They are humans. They are part of us. They have flesh and blood as we. The only shortcomings are their ailments.

So how can you find undiluted love from these sick ones even in the face of nothing?  Watch out for the concluding part of this article.

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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WHY JUDAS?

It’s so amazing how many people have destroyed their future by their characters and their ways of life. Whenever there are chaoses in their lives, they tend to blame it on God. Most times when you hear someone close by your side complaining about how cruel life has treated him, what should you do is to sum up the boldness to ask that person if at all things that are happening to him are not as a result of his wrongdoing.

I will use the case of Judas Iscariot in the bible. He was described as a subtle man and heartless in all his ways. He was just all bad in his ways that if one can fully describe him, Judas was not in the right position to have blessings from God. Few days ago when I read his history, I asked myself so many questions and one of them was; why Judas? I mean why was he chosen to be the son of predicament? Why was he chosen to be the betrayer of Jesus?

Do you know why he was given this title? By looking at his personality and his actions, there is no doubt that such disaster should come upon him. Judas was just too corrupted to be trusted with the things of life. Here are few examples;

1)      Judas was in charge of the financial duties of Jesus and the other disciples. What was expected of him was nothing short of ensuring that every penny is accountable for but it turned out to be so sad that Judas fell prey to the love of looting the treasure and getting away with it. If he believed that none of his co-disciples were not aware, what he forgot was that Jesus sees all though the Master never talked about it.

2)     During a meal at Mary, Martha and Lazare’s house where Jesus dined with his disciples, Mary was glad to pour expensive oil on the feet of Jesus and wiping them with her long hair. It was a meal few days after Jesus had raised Lazare from the dead. You can imagine the joy that filled the heart of Mary that prompted her to do what she did. On the other side, Judas was not happy about this. Do you know what he said? ‘Why waste this oil for nothing? Why can’t it be sold and the money given to the poor?’  Don’t you feel funny about his question? I couldn’t help visualizing the deceptive type of man he was in his days. Jesus was quick in replying correctly, which I liked. Of course, we can always have the poor among us but at that time, Jesus was just on earth for a limited period of time.

Every disciple has a dutiful role to play while serving his master. Judas went the wrong way. They were twelve of them, and among there was Thomas, the doubting man but the bible did not record Thomas being a thief or cunning. This means that among the twelve, Judas was the only one with the bad behaviours and wrong way of life.

It is therefore no doubt that God chose Judas to be the one to serve as the betrayer. My belief is that if Judas had lived his life in the orderly way; if he had served God with all his might; if he was honest in all his doing; if he accepted others the way they are; if he respected his service and duty; if he did not drown into the habit of embezzling the treasure account, I am sure he won’t have fallen into the line of being the betrayal.

And you; are you like Judas in your work? Have you developed the habit of signing out unnecessary and unauthorized documents because you want to profit from it? Are you enjoying cheating your employers? How happy are you if the thought of stealing comes to your mind? Do you always believe that you can commit a crime and get away with it? Have you ever paused to imagine what the consequences will be if you are caught?

The wise will always know that life is best when we avoid anything that will get us into irreversible mistakes. You still remember what happened to Judas in the end. As soon as Jesus gave Judas the sop, the Satan entered him (Judas) and he went ahead to betray Jesus to death.

It was when Jesus was taken that Judas realized his error. It was then that Satan departed from Judas. The final result was disastrous; Judas committed suicide. He never thought he could go that far in betraying his Master. His actions had spoken for him.

Please don’t try to go in the way of Judas. The outcome of it can be a lifelong. Choose to live your life for the goodness of others. Serve with total commitment. Show love to others. Be contented with what you have. Don’t allow the idea of outwitting others of their hard-earned money gets into your head. Flee from theft; run from deception and finally embrace the best of that life has to offer!

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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