FINDING LOVE IN THE FACE OF NOTHING (2)

 

In the last edition, I mentioned how as a family we all supported my sister during her ordeals. I wonder how many people can stand the test of time by supporting one of theirs at the moments of needs.

This is not to say that everybody is not capable of doing such but the major truth is that there are so many people out there who don’t care if at all one of them is ill or not. They may be aware of that beloved one(s) in urgent need of attention but they will not respond. It may be an act of wickedness or just being ignorant of what it means to care for someone whom we love and who is in dire need of us.

For the next sixteen years while she suffered and battled this sickness, we were there for her. Four years ago, she went to be with the lord. We all missed her but one strong point she left with all us is to extend our affection for everybody who crosses our paths.

We learnt so much while with her. You know even those taking care of the sick ones are equally affected one way or the other even if they did not realized this. The short period she spent with us was not for nothing; it established such strong bond that nobody can dare intrudes.

Have you ever seen someone who tries not to identify himself with a handicap in his household? What comes to your mind if at all you knew such person? Can you be in the same position and thus you tend to do the same?  Tell me, what does life means to you when it comes to taking care of someone you love?

In my entire life, I have witnessed where tens of people tried as much as they could to avoid carrying any responsibilities. I have seen a family who went off to drop their old one at a home for old folks because they just feel that old woman is a burden.

I have heard of mothers self-handedly murdered their handicap children because they are ashamed of living with them. Also I have seen husband who divorced his wife immediately the moment he discovered she has breast cancer.

You want my word on this?  It is very simple; love, love and love your sick ones!

Don’t be shy to show off any sick member of your family to the world if the need arises. Show them love. Let them know that you truly care for them and that you accept them being part of your family.

When you reject them or you try to hide them from public eye, then you are telling them clearly that they don’t belong to the outer world. It equally means that you are indirectly telling them that they made the greatest mistakes of being born. That alone can worsen their situations in some cases.

Many people have committed suicide when they found out that none of their family members love to see them around. Many sick ones have lost hope of recovery because they were made to understand that they don’t belong.

People who are disabled or sick in anyway don’t just get that problem by themselves. Life happens to anybody just about anyhow. You are just lucky that you are hale and healthy.

Why don’t you get into the habit of making life happy and possible for your sick ones and those around in your world?

When you commit your life to putting smile on other people’s faces, more happiness and fulfillment in life will be yours. There is no doubt about this.

 

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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FINDING LOVE IN THE FACE OF NOTHING (1)

 

Dear Friend,

When one of my younger sisters was severely sick, we all thought that it was just for a while and that everything will be fine. That was nineteen years ago. Hardly did we know that we have the longest battle ahead of us.

Her sickness took more than we bargained for. We lost our precious times and energies as we devoted all our attentions on her. We knew that as one of us, we cannot abandon her at these times that she needed us more.  There were nights we took turn in compulsory night-vigils at home to watch over her. We laughed with her when she can; we watched films with her if she wanted; we cried with her when such moments came; we talked health into her life as best as we could. We tried to encourage her to get well. What else did we not apply?

Seeing someone we love and care for in such critical position can be very demanding. Despite, her health deteriorated beyond recognition. Sometimes she hardly could identify any of us even by our names. We kept on loving her regardless of what was happening then. I will always respect my family for the support we all gave my sister during those moments. We refused to put her in seclusion. We believe she belongs to us and we must treat her equally no matter what. We let those friends and neighbours of ours to know that our sister exist and we love her so dearly.

There are so many people like us out there having sick ones in their family, or are you one of them? Many of these people don’t ever want to be identifying with any sick person in their family. They are ashamed to show off their sick ones. Their excuses usually are; what will my friends think of me if they find out that my sister is disable or severely ill? My fiancée will cancels our wedding plans if she discover that my mother is handicapped; no one is going to accept my friendship if they know that my daughter is mentally-ill; or all my colleagues will avoid me once they know that my family and I live on the street, etc.

So these flimsy excuses can go on and on without you finding any true meaning to your life. For instance, if your fiancée cancels your wedding just because she discovered that your mother is handicap, then be happy that she leaves you right on time. You know what? It is better to stick to a woman who will be ready to accept you and your family for who you are.  Why must there be a put –up pretense in this affair?

What are friends for? I believe a friend is someone who stays with you despite all. If your friends flee because your sister is severely sick, then go on to change friends. You are not forced to stay with them. Look for friends who understand your situation and who will love you immensely. The sick ones in every family are not unwanted aliens. They are humans. They are part of us. They have flesh and blood as we. The only shortcomings are their ailments.

So how can you find undiluted love from these sick ones even in the face of nothing?  Watch out for the concluding part of this article.

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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WHY JUDAS?

It’s so amazing how many people have destroyed their future by their characters and their ways of life. Whenever there are chaoses in their lives, they tend to blame it on God. Most times when you hear someone close by your side complaining about how cruel life has treated him, what should you do is to sum up the boldness to ask that person if at all things that are happening to him are not as a result of his wrongdoing.

I will use the case of Judas Iscariot in the bible. He was described as a subtle man and heartless in all his ways. He was just all bad in his ways that if one can fully describe him, Judas was not in the right position to have blessings from God. Few days ago when I read his history, I asked myself so many questions and one of them was; why Judas? I mean why was he chosen to be the son of predicament? Why was he chosen to be the betrayer of Jesus?

Do you know why he was given this title? By looking at his personality and his actions, there is no doubt that such disaster should come upon him. Judas was just too corrupted to be trusted with the things of life. Here are few examples;

1)      Judas was in charge of the financial duties of Jesus and the other disciples. What was expected of him was nothing short of ensuring that every penny is accountable for but it turned out to be so sad that Judas fell prey to the love of looting the treasure and getting away with it. If he believed that none of his co-disciples were not aware, what he forgot was that Jesus sees all though the Master never talked about it.

2)     During a meal at Mary, Martha and Lazare’s house where Jesus dined with his disciples, Mary was glad to pour expensive oil on the feet of Jesus and wiping them with her long hair. It was a meal few days after Jesus had raised Lazare from the dead. You can imagine the joy that filled the heart of Mary that prompted her to do what she did. On the other side, Judas was not happy about this. Do you know what he said? ‘Why waste this oil for nothing? Why can’t it be sold and the money given to the poor?’  Don’t you feel funny about his question? I couldn’t help visualizing the deceptive type of man he was in his days. Jesus was quick in replying correctly, which I liked. Of course, we can always have the poor among us but at that time, Jesus was just on earth for a limited period of time.

Every disciple has a dutiful role to play while serving his master. Judas went the wrong way. They were twelve of them, and among there was Thomas, the doubting man but the bible did not record Thomas being a thief or cunning. This means that among the twelve, Judas was the only one with the bad behaviours and wrong way of life.

It is therefore no doubt that God chose Judas to be the one to serve as the betrayer. My belief is that if Judas had lived his life in the orderly way; if he had served God with all his might; if he was honest in all his doing; if he accepted others the way they are; if he respected his service and duty; if he did not drown into the habit of embezzling the treasure account, I am sure he won’t have fallen into the line of being the betrayal.

And you; are you like Judas in your work? Have you developed the habit of signing out unnecessary and unauthorized documents because you want to profit from it? Are you enjoying cheating your employers? How happy are you if the thought of stealing comes to your mind? Do you always believe that you can commit a crime and get away with it? Have you ever paused to imagine what the consequences will be if you are caught?

The wise will always know that life is best when we avoid anything that will get us into irreversible mistakes. You still remember what happened to Judas in the end. As soon as Jesus gave Judas the sop, the Satan entered him (Judas) and he went ahead to betray Jesus to death.

It was when Jesus was taken that Judas realized his error. It was then that Satan departed from Judas. The final result was disastrous; Judas committed suicide. He never thought he could go that far in betraying his Master. His actions had spoken for him.

Please don’t try to go in the way of Judas. The outcome of it can be a lifelong. Choose to live your life for the goodness of others. Serve with total commitment. Show love to others. Be contented with what you have. Don’t allow the idea of outwitting others of their hard-earned money gets into your head. Flee from theft; run from deception and finally embrace the best of that life has to offer!

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

©2009 All Rights Reserved

 

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING?

 

With all the tensions going on around us, it is likely anyone can easily give up.  Looking at the economic recession, the never-ending battles among the nations, the terrorist attacks, the various accidents and lots of other calamites, there is every tendency that life will not hold any meaning to you.

Most times when you hear the report of a terrible incident, the first question on your mind will be; WHY?

What you have to learn is how you must rid your thought off this fixed question; why. Instead, I implore you to be at a point in your life that you are capable of living on irrespective of what circumstances you may find yourself.

I want you to know that only one word has been keeping me going on in my journey of life. It is not that easy to just live on but this word remains so precious to me, the best guide for everyday living.

So what is this word?   FAITH!

Does this make sense to you? You must have heard this word hundreds of times without you giving it a deep thought. You have come to the realisation that FAITH isn’t just a five-letter word. When you see it that way, then it becomes that to you. And that won’t hold any power to help you.

So does this word FAITH helps? This is simple! Just apply the same belief that you have when your father or mother promises to buy you that which you need and asked them for. You believe the word of your parents; you know within you that they won’t disappoint you.

The same is applicable to when applying FAITH. It means that it is what you believe in that you get. If you have it in your mind to attain successes no matter what, then that is FAITH. On the other aspect, if you have this fixed mental habit of visualizing failure, of holding unto negative thoughts, or surrounding yourself with people-who-never-see-anything-good-in-another-person, then you have pre-prepared yourself and your God-given life for extreme failure.

Now, let me ask you; are you ready to apply FAITH into every aspect of your life or you still wanting to keep pace with negativity?

Choose right; Choose FAITH!

Cheers!

Home sweet home!

I am back home!

l have kept contacts with the other artists.

What blissful experiences we all had at the Sanskriti!

Wait, I will definitely keep up with the posting!

Cheers!

LAPSE OF FAITH

 

 

 

Dear Friend,

 

With the recession going on and seems not to have an end, anybody can concludes that there will never be a way out.

 

Somehow, many people have lost the hope that the world economic will be restored. It does not take the eye of a wise one to see that these crises must be in order to have the balance needed.

 

The economic problem started as result of some people’s fault. The authorities in power, the eat-it-all and die-it-all and of course the greedy ones who refused to have any rethink about the consequences of their actions.

 

You can imagine the speed at which this crisis spread across the world; from USA straight to Europe, to Asia and now to Africa. It is just a pity that right now, Africa suffers this blow more than them. If you have been up to date with the world financial report, you will discover the effect of the financial blow on Africa.

 

In the midst of these, there are some folks who have made up their mind not to allow their present positions to deter their future. You may ask, is there any future for you in this what-seems-to-be-a-never-ending crisis?

 

You want to know what? Instead of sitting down and talking about the effects or the impacts of this financial tow down on you and your life, why don’t you make use of the best of it? Instead of checking your pocket every night, in search of a money bill, why don’t you use that moment to create the positive goals for your life? Why must you measured out the certain amount of food to be cook in the house? What are you afraid of?

  

There are opportunities everywhere! You only need to see, not just with your eyes wide open but with your right thinking. It is there! You must learn to see, to discover, to find out, to think, to be creative, to imagine, to visualize and to take profound action.

 

Don’t give anybody the chance to talk you into believing that there is no more hope.

 

In the coming months or years to come, after the crises are over, you will understand why this is important for you right now to take action.

 

Look, why not think about this; many folks are selling off their homes, their investments and whatever just because they believed that they can no longer hold on to these properties. Many of them already lost out on the game. For them, they don’t foresee any changes. As they put out all they have for sale, there are those ‘WONDERFUL & WISE’ folks who dare to put in their money and all they have to purchase these houses from these former folks.

 

Is that making sense to you? Now, if the crises are over, can you tell me who loses and who gains?

 

I am not suggesting that you should go and buy one of these houses. There are several opportunities better than just a structure. You must wake up and check it out.

 

Ask question, do your research, be ready at all time that a chance comes to you, do not lose hope. Don’t listen to the crowd, listen to your heart.

 

Just throw in a lapse of Faith!

 

Cheers!