Dear Friend,
There is this ISSUE about creating some kinds of friendship that you need to know.
It is sounds great developing friendship with just about any one. Most of us knew what friendship is all about. You can start off wonderful one just like that with a stranger thus both of you becoming the best of friends. It may be someone you met at school, your place of work, your churches, in the commercial buses, taxis, grocery store or even on the street.
It does not matter where you tend to develop your friendship. BUT sometimes, you need to understand that there are some kinds of friendship that you must be careful with.
One of them, which I am going to focus on today, is developing friendship with your neighbour(s).
There is no what if in this. A long-lasting lesson of respect you will earned when you learn how to deal with your neighbour(s). That you reside in the same building or the same neighbourhood does not mean you should go on to pitch your 24 hours tent in your neighbour’s house.
I have seen women and men who without them realising daily vacated their own houses and went to stay in their neighbours’ houses. It is not as if they move in permanently but unconsciously they got into the bad habit of either going to watch football match on their neighbours’ TV or giving such excuses as going to ‘say hello.’
As for the women, they just want to gossip and they found the best way were to always come together in group.
This way, many of them lost the dignity they should have earned if they have mastered the art of staying in their own houses.
Are you one who cherishes spending long hours at your neighbours? You know what? Your neighbours may not speak against this directly to you but he or she is not comfortable with your hanging around.
With your 24 hours visibility at your neighbour’s, you don’t give the other person the chance to live a life of privacy. Also, you won’t have the creative time to develop your own live.
If you want the best for your life, then you must adjust the way you deal with neighbours. There are moments you will need them but they are best to be seen afar.
You might just try applying the French way of dealing with neighbours, which is just minding your own businesses, tending to your own affairs, caring for your own family and avoiding the neighbours BUT never forget to greet when you meet them on the staircase or along the street.
Be reasonable to apply this. Avoid frequenting your neighbours’ houses. Stay in your own house and cater for your needs and those of your family members. Let your entire neighbourhood sees you as someone respectable, a person of honour and NOT a meddler.
I hope you will listen.
Cheers!
Princess Ayelotan
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