THE PRICELESS EARNING

A girlfriend does not understand why several people find it so hard to heed to her words. To her, she concluded that none of these people, whose majority are from her family do respect her.

She got me thinking. I did not bother to talk to her over this because to me, I knew she is old enough to know where her problem lies.

I wonder if many people understand what respect means and the ways to earning it. Respect does not come to anyone by chance.

To earn respect, you have to walk for it. If you are the type who derives pleasure from interfering into another person’s affair, how is it possible for you to be respected?

You don’t need to force people to respect you. There is absolutely no need to hold people in serious discussion in order to announce to them that they must respect you. In fact, if you do that, you are diving further into making them dry up all the reserve of respect they may intend for you.

The most important way to earn respect and maintain it is by your attitude. How you conduct yourself is very vital. You may not believe this but people watch you daily especially in your place of work, in your neighbourhood, in your churches, on the street, among your friends, and public events.

• Avoid getting drunk to such extent that you turn yourself to a nonentity on the streets.
• Watch how you talk to people.
• Are you rude often?
• Do you care about what comes out of your mouth or your just speak anyhow?
• Are you conscious of the way you walk, your dressing or you are this dirty type who cares for one shirt per week?
•  Do you enjoy mixing up as group with the women on your street to tarnish the image of another family or woman?
•  Do you mind your business or prefer to meddle anywhere as you want?
• How you do you address your spouse or children publicly?
• Do you care about the welfare of other people or you just shun them as you like?
• Do you love cursing and openly?
• How is your level of smoking? Do you smoke just about anywhere even not caring about spurring on people’s face while at the bus-stop?
• How organise is your matrimonial home?
• How well-arranged is your personal life?
• Are helping yourself to improve academically, financially, and more or you are the type who prefer to go borrow money, clothes, foodstuff from your next-door neighbour?

If you check your life and find that none of the above questions are for you, then you are heading toward or are the one who deserve respect.

On the other side, if you match one of the above questions, then you must adjust your life. Nothing is ever too late and that means that it is not yet too late for you to change.

Respect will flow to you when your life is organised and people around you can testify genuinely.

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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BEING THAT SUPER-PERFECT IS NOT ENOUGH

Dear Friend,

Being good to people is not just mere requisite for living. You may think it is normal in life to be good to people, to show kindness wherever we meet other people, to help others if they need our assistance, or even to greet others.

It does not end there.         

In fact, life is much deeper than you think. The little thing of life that you tend to take for granted or the small incident that occurred in your way and you overlook is that important part of life though you may not fully understand that from the onset.

What you give to life is often what life gives back to you. It may be so sudden that you will reap that but it will surely come.

This is why no matter the level you are in life, no matter the greatness of your personality; do not, I mean, do not toy with people who were there for you.

People are there for you at those particular moments when you need help. They just don’t come to you by accident. They are part of the blessings for your life.

Now that you have succeeded and excel in life, does it pay you to forget these precious people who helped you when you are nothing?

No!

Learn to appreciate and pay back. A word of thanks is not a waste neither is it a burden. Do not look down on people because you think you are no longer in their level.

Maintain your relationship with people irrespective of whom and where you are because you will need these people one day.

Do not be too arrogant to believe that you are higher than people. No one is higher than another person. What makes you different may be your attainment of wealth, education or whatever but it is only God who is above all.

You need to remain good to people and be in constant contact with them. People are precious. God created us all to be there for one another. To help, to admonish, to support, to laugh together, to care for, to cry together, to create, and even to destroy when the need be.

Think twice when thinking of doing away with people. You never can tell, you will surely need them when that time comes.

So stay being good to people! They are invaluable!

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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WHAT WILL BECOME OF ME?

Dear friend,

A twelve-year old boy walked to his teacher and said ‘Mr John, I want to be like you”

His teacher looked at him, a bit puzzled and asked “how, Richard?”

Richard was by now timid when he replied; “I will be a teacher like you when I grow up”

John was touched. He smiled and rubbed his hand over Richard’s head as he said “Ok Richard but make sure you become a teacher and with extreme responsibility plus greater differences”

What John actually meant by his response is not for Little Richard to be a teacher BUT to be a teacher will sort-out difference(s). John knew there are thousands of people who are in his profession and he was impressed that his pupils liked him. It was the result of his impact.  His distinguish character and expertise moved Little Richard to that point of desiring to be like his teacher.

Each time I remember this side of John’s story, it helps me to reflect so much on entire human race. Do you know that there is no profession on earth that has never been done by someone else?

Are you passionate about your career as a Journalist? Do you desire to be part of the US military special envoy to Afghanistan? Are you dying about securing that hot seat as President of United States of American as Obama?  Is it in your future agenda to becoming the next Queen of England? Or are you training to become a Medical doctor, Pastor, acupuncturist, IT Consultant, Writer, Barrister, University professor, pharmacist, Librarian, modelling stylist, pilot, et cetera.

You may even be contending for the post of a senator.

The truth is, there is ABSOLUTELY nothing you will be, or want to be, on this planet earth that another person had not been.  Every profession is a circle that goes round and round.

What set you OUT and makes you different is your ability to be NUMBER ONE in whatever you are doing. It is not enough that you are just in your profession or whatever career you are training for without creating a SET OUT goals for yourself.

Take for instance, Edward Moore (Teddy, Ted) Kennedy (February 22, 1932 – August 25, 2009). He was an icon. Ted is gone today but he would forever be remembered. Throughout his lifetime, he SET OUT making differences in his career as US senator. Yes, he was a Kennedy but Ted was just too different! Though he had his flaws, Ted did not let that determined his career and personality. He SET OUT differently! He helped the poor, the needy, the women, and kids as well as deprived ones.

There are hundreds of people like Ted and you too might be one on the list if you come to full understanding that you must be different.

Do not be comfortable being among the numbers in your profession. Instead fight to be out of the number. It does not pay to stay in the group. Get out of the crowd! Be an unforgettable impact.

Do you know how many senators have passed through the US senate? Yet, Ted Kennedy’s differences just SET him OUT! He served ten US Presidents including President Obama. If Ted was not good for the senate, he would have been kicked out and forgotten.

May I ask you this? What will become of you in your chosen profession?

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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I CAN’T STAND THIS PERSON!

Being able to accept others into our lives does not require so much from us. There are some of us who think its not possible most times dealing with people. Sure, I knew some people are difficult but I would like to announce to you that this is very EASY.

What you need to understand are those invaluable differences in us as human. Let’s take for instance; when you have two or more cats as pet. They may even be dogs. You will found out as you all live together that these pets are different in their behaviours and you just have to adapt to them differently.

The same applies to how you deal or interact with fellow being.

That you are smart, quick-swift and hyperactive does not means your friend, your parents, your siblings, your colleague or your employee, or your spouse or your kids will be just like you. Some people are slow in executing their duties. In fact, some are extremely slow.

There are others who are sluggish, while there are those prefer to take things easy; you don’t push them and they will work at their own pace. Apart from these set of people, there are those ones with high capacity of getting their jobs done within seconds.

Despite, we all are humans. We have the obligation to accept others as they are. How will this world be if the entire human races are gifted with the same characters, attitudes and other ways of doing things? The beauties of our being are our God-given differences.

Learn to tolerate. Are you an employer and you are having difficulties getting your employees doing their jobs as you desire?

Be reasonable as you apply gentleness but firm approach to instruct them.

Are you a parent; frustrated with your kids’ behaviour?

Check out their own point of view, their weak points and with complete calmness, speak to them.

Do you feel your spouse is becoming a pain in the ass though there is no such as violence or abuses between you?

Look out for convenient moment when there is serenity to discuss and solve the problem

Do not buy the idea that someone is too difficult to handle. If you master tolerance, definitely you will find it easy and smooth dealing with others.

So are you going to embrace tolerance today?

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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I MET MR STIGMA

He is neither human nor robot

Yet he lives inside us.

He came to us when we moved

To our new abode

 

There, the entire street gazed non-stop

Their fists tightened, ready for discord

Their lower jaws moved up and down

In response to their spirited anger

 

They watched with contempt

While we pushed in our belongings

Disdain to have us as part of them

To be part of the distinguished circus

 

I knew they are maybe right

To see us as misfit

So I queried Mr. Stigma

“You are different” he replied

 

So I realised that no how far we locate

No matter the effort we made,

Mr. Stigma will not seize to be,

As long as the colour of my skin exists.

 

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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 SHADOW OF THE SUN

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LAST MOMENT

Dear Friend,

Someone asked me ‘Princess, what do you think about Michael Jackson?’

‘I think he was great!’ I replied. I thought we would leave it that way but this person was not done yet.

‘Princess,’

‘Yes’

‘Do you believe that he will go to heaven?’

‘Who?’

‘Michael Jackson. Are you sure he is fit for heaven?’

I paused and thought for a while. I knew I must give an answer. So I said; ‘Let God be the one to determine that’

It is so amazing how people are fast in judging others. It is so sad to discover that those who are experts in condemning others are the ones with worst crimes ever.

We are here on earth to make a mark, to create meaning to other people’s lives.

We are not here to destroy unless we decide to do this. Our lives are not just for us alone but to bless others, to make life worth living for others, to share love, laughter, helping hands, smile, and many wonderful things of life together.

And that was what Michael Jackson did. He came and proved his destiny beyond doubt.  

There is no doubt that we are also aware of this part of our lives that portraits our weaknesses. Michael Jackson had his, I have mine and of course, you have yours.  Every human on planet earth has individual weakness that may be one or multiple. And because Michael’s weakness worked against his good nature while he was alive does not or cannot be the ultimate fact for anyone to conclude that he was a bad man.

Last night, I sat throughout his memorial. My internet connection went off and I have to reconnect it again before I was able to watch the entire live event. Believe me, I lost myself to tears.

During her speech at the memorial, US Congress Lady, Sheila Jackson Lee emphasised so hard on some people’s focus on Michael Jackson’s weakness. She concluded by saying Michael was ‘innocent until proven guilty’ she said it right.  

I would like to add to this by saying that judging people for their weaknesses is wrong. We must not be pushed to doing this when we know within our privacies that we have our own weaknesses.

Let us focuses more on trying to make life better and sweeter for those around us, in our world and also for ourselves.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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SOUND OF SIN

Oh God, why me? Why me? Why me…

I have heard that many times after times and when I heard this, I used to ask myself; why is it that people tend to confront God for the issues in their lives?

I mean why do we blame God for everything as if He is the culprit? And we may even get it far by gradually hating ourselves without knowing this.

We have asked God why things happened and because we feel that there are no answers to that, unknowingly we begin to feel as if we are worst off and that it is better that we don’t love ourselves anymore.

When problems come your way, instead of sitting down and brooding over the issues, which can lead you to nothing but frustration, why don’t you take this to God in an unusual calm way?

It is best for you if you can stop asking God unnecessary question; ‘WHY ME’ because you and I know that God is not the author of evil.

You don’t have to get yourself into that low-level profile of hating yourself even if the fault comes from you. You can pick up every fallen piece of your life and mould out the best of you from it.

After all, your life is not over until you decide that you want to end it. You need to understand that problems in your life don’t just appear like that to torment you; they help you to develop, to learn more about what this life holds and to build the real you from it.

So l implore you to stop this ‘why me’! Stop pointing accusing finger at God for nothing! It is a sound of sin! 

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Princess Ayelotan

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE (3)

 

Dear Friend,

The two past editions focused on four groups of people on planet earth and why you must not identify yourself with Watchers, which is the last group.

This is the final edition and I’m going to briefly highlight below what you must do to get rid of Watchers in your life (that is if you have any).

1)      Stop COMPLAINING, go into ACTION! It is like you are supposed to get a project done and when you embark on it, you get tired and decide to stop, and pushing it aside for a while. This is what Watchers do!

I bet you don’t expect any result from any abandon project, do you? What you don’t work for can never be meaningful to you. If you want to get to a stage in your life that you can boldly say; ‘I have arrived’, then you must put on the shoes of perseverance, of patience, of hardworking, and to stay optimistic.

2)     Get yourself focused. I remember I told you that Watchers are just lazy and busy-bodies to have time for productivity in their lives. This is where you must be different. Focus on what will profits you and your future. If a Watcher comes to you complaining about how another friend of yours tends to make it more than him, please, tell him off. You don’t have to do this with anger but be wise to avoid getting involved.

3)     Be Optimistic. When the Watchers around you are cursing rich people that you knew or not, do not join them. You will do yourself more harms when you involve in topics like that. Instead, appreciate the rich and then the Universe will favour you too.

You don’t or cannot see anyone in the Achievers’ group wasting his or her time over unprofitable topics. They don’t have time, believe me. Achievers love their works with all their lives because they knew how important successes mean to them.

4)     Gone and gone were those days when you will need the help of the entire church members to come and settle the dispute between you and your spouse or your children. STOP reporting to outsiders what goes on in YOUR HOME! If you have a problem, go to God in prayer.  Nothing is too big that God is too small to handle. Talking out bring even bigger problems that you may never be able to solve. Everybody has the ability to misinterpret what you tell them. All you need it God’s wisdom and of course self-control.  You have that God-given ability inside of you to settle troubles in your home. Watchers will only be happy to help you further destroy the joy you long for in your home.

5)     Distinguish yourself. To be at that level where your world will be looking at you upward and with awe, then you must be different. Change your pattern of speech. Change your way of dressing; do not fall into the habit of dressing as if you are always in mourning or in poverty. No matter how hard the economy is right now, that does not mean that life is bad after all.  Be clean at every second of the days even at night. You won’t attract goodness to you if you are shabby.

6)     Be positive and kind in your words to your spouse, to your kids, to your family members, to your friends, to your neighbours, and above all, to strangers. Who knows where your successes will be deliver to you.  Get into the habit of loving people genuinely. I met lots of people in my trips and I try to keep record of the numerous emails I got from them so that I can mail at least twice a month. They are wonderful people! And they have been God’s disguised blessings to me in many ways.

7)     Finally, I want you to fall in love with MONEY! Do not laugh because this is serious. STOP squeezing money bill into your purse, bag or pocket. Ensure you stretch it neat before you put it into your purse. Be kind with money and it will be kind to you. Respect money and it will respect you and come to you. If you treat each bill of money in your hand anyhow, it will flee from you. DO NOT finish or spend the entire money you have in your purse or wallet. Leave at least a currency bill………soon I will explain this fully in another topic.

 

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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TASTE OF HUNGER

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SHADOW OF THE SUN

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE (2)

Dear Friend,

 Last week, I mentioned the four groups of people and I warned you about why you must flee from being among this group; WATCHERS.

Today, I am going to elaborate further on this group. I want you to read this carefully. Watchers, though is in plural, I am going to refer to it as single. This group has the highest population of lazy ones, the thieves, the ready-to-destroy, the talkative, and so goes the list. 

Watchers love to criticise others. It is the people in this group who don’t notice the good happenings in the society. They are the ones who love to sit back in their homes and curse others who are busy working so hard to progress in their lives.

Have you even seen how rowdy and rough a city can be in the morning between 8am and 10am in the morning? Have you noticed how people struggled to cramp into the commercial buses, trains and trams in hurry to get earlier to their offices. If you are like me, you will understand faster. The way this throng of people are in the morning is the way I want you to compare this group; Watchers. They are so jam-packed that each of them tries to climb on top of another in an attempt to escape the group and the more an effort, the more the others pull the person back. It takes the grace of God to anyone in this group to escape out of it.

This is a congested and over-populated group. Do not try to join them. Watchers don’t care about getting out of bed even at 10am in the morning on week days. Watchers don’t bother about how to invest for their families. Watchers are the one who enjoy gossips beyond doubt. Watchers don’t think of repaying their debts, rather, they would fight with the creditors as if these persons made mistakes lending them the money in the first instance. Watchers love to waste, they love to bring you down and that is if you allow them.

Watchers are the one who will advice you on how to rule your house, they will advise you on how to handle your children, and they will even go a mile to warn you about confiding in your wife or husband.

Be careful, Friend, so that if you have a friend with the same above description, then I implore you to flee.    

If you are not aware of this, then note this; a Watcher-friend will never be genuinely happy if you are successfully above him or her in all areas of your life.

What then must you do to get rid of Watchers in your life?

Wait until next edition.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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MEANING TO LIFE

Dear Friend,

It has been known that the way each of us understand some things in life is not the same. I can look at a painted portrait on the wall and my conclusion will be that it is about a village. When you look at this same picture, there is every possibility that you will disagree with me. You can call it a town.

The same goes with how you and I will react to certain situation. What you will not accept that it should go away just like that, I can simply wave it aside and not bother.

This is when tolerance has to come in.  Sometimes, you may want those loved ones with you to take your word into consideration. This is what you want, which is good. On the other hand, I want you to understand that you should not always conclude that you will have all your expectation accepted.

People are different. I am glad that all of us are not the same. This is what makes us unique. We can maximize these differences to benefit and help one another. Tolerance is what we need.

Don’t think that you can stay away; isolate yourself away from the world. This is out of it. Whatever you do, you cannot achieve the final result all alone. You will need people. They may be your friends, family members, colleagues, classmates or your spouse and most importantly, strangers.

How much of meaning do you attached to life? How do you react to unwanted situations? How do you deal with people? Do you love them for who they are? Are you the type who love to take others for granted?

It is how you treat people that you will end up being treated the same way. This is not the 50% issue. This is has to do with what people mean to you and how you are able to deal with each of them as individual.

Learn to tolerate people. They are not like you, so don’t expect them to always do things the same way you love things being done. Don’t go looking at their weaknesses and then think of using that as weapons against them. Avoid unnecessary anger, which comes as result of your intolerant. Remove from your mind the fixed thought that makes you feel that you just cannot put up with this man or that woman.

Instead, start to accept everyone you come across as they are. Tolerance is the best key to getting more friends and building wider world for your life. When you start to tolerate people and to accept them as they are, then you have truly mastered the “art” of tolerance.

People matter in your life. Just as they need you, it is the same on your side as well.

Learn to be tolerant.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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