THE PRICELESS EARNING

A girlfriend does not understand why several people find it so hard to heed to her words. To her, she concluded that none of these people, whose majority are from her family do respect her.

She got me thinking. I did not bother to talk to her over this because to me, I knew she is old enough to know where her problem lies.

I wonder if many people understand what respect means and the ways to earning it. Respect does not come to anyone by chance.

To earn respect, you have to walk for it. If you are the type who derives pleasure from interfering into another person’s affair, how is it possible for you to be respected?

You don’t need to force people to respect you. There is absolutely no need to hold people in serious discussion in order to announce to them that they must respect you. In fact, if you do that, you are diving further into making them dry up all the reserve of respect they may intend for you.

The most important way to earn respect and maintain it is by your attitude. How you conduct yourself is very vital. You may not believe this but people watch you daily especially in your place of work, in your neighbourhood, in your churches, on the street, among your friends, and public events.

• Avoid getting drunk to such extent that you turn yourself to a nonentity on the streets.
• Watch how you talk to people.
• Are you rude often?
• Do you care about what comes out of your mouth or your just speak anyhow?
• Are you conscious of the way you walk, your dressing or you are this dirty type who cares for one shirt per week?
•  Do you enjoy mixing up as group with the women on your street to tarnish the image of another family or woman?
•  Do you mind your business or prefer to meddle anywhere as you want?
• How you do you address your spouse or children publicly?
• Do you care about the welfare of other people or you just shun them as you like?
• Do you love cursing and openly?
• How is your level of smoking? Do you smoke just about anywhere even not caring about spurring on people’s face while at the bus-stop?
• How organise is your matrimonial home?
• How well-arranged is your personal life?
• Are helping yourself to improve academically, financially, and more or you are the type who prefer to go borrow money, clothes, foodstuff from your next-door neighbour?

If you check your life and find that none of the above questions are for you, then you are heading toward or are the one who deserve respect.

On the other side, if you match one of the above questions, then you must adjust your life. Nothing is ever too late and that means that it is not yet too late for you to change.

Respect will flow to you when your life is organised and people around you can testify genuinely.

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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BEING THAT SUPER-PERFECT IS NOT ENOUGH

Dear Friend,

Being good to people is not just mere requisite for living. You may think it is normal in life to be good to people, to show kindness wherever we meet other people, to help others if they need our assistance, or even to greet others.

It does not end there.         

In fact, life is much deeper than you think. The little thing of life that you tend to take for granted or the small incident that occurred in your way and you overlook is that important part of life though you may not fully understand that from the onset.

What you give to life is often what life gives back to you. It may be so sudden that you will reap that but it will surely come.

This is why no matter the level you are in life, no matter the greatness of your personality; do not, I mean, do not toy with people who were there for you.

People are there for you at those particular moments when you need help. They just don’t come to you by accident. They are part of the blessings for your life.

Now that you have succeeded and excel in life, does it pay you to forget these precious people who helped you when you are nothing?

No!

Learn to appreciate and pay back. A word of thanks is not a waste neither is it a burden. Do not look down on people because you think you are no longer in their level.

Maintain your relationship with people irrespective of whom and where you are because you will need these people one day.

Do not be too arrogant to believe that you are higher than people. No one is higher than another person. What makes you different may be your attainment of wealth, education or whatever but it is only God who is above all.

You need to remain good to people and be in constant contact with them. People are precious. God created us all to be there for one another. To help, to admonish, to support, to laugh together, to care for, to cry together, to create, and even to destroy when the need be.

Think twice when thinking of doing away with people. You never can tell, you will surely need them when that time comes.

So stay being good to people! They are invaluable!

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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The TUCK

 

She lowers her head,

Her eyes sweep the hard cemented floor

There she hears them approaching

As they go on and forth.

Tack, tack, tack, tack,

So they move, going on and forth.

She watches their coloured legs, of

Cover shoes, flat shoes, tennis shoes

So she watches and waits,

Waiting to hear the major ‘TUCK’

Of the mercy coin in her cup.

‘Tack, tack, tack, tack,

She listens but listens more for the tuck

Praying more for the sound of the tuck

Because she does not forget,

The hungry little fingers waiting at home.

 

Princess Ayelotan

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE (2)

Dear Friend,

 Last week, I mentioned the four groups of people and I warned you about why you must flee from being among this group; WATCHERS.

Today, I am going to elaborate further on this group. I want you to read this carefully. Watchers, though is in plural, I am going to refer to it as single. This group has the highest population of lazy ones, the thieves, the ready-to-destroy, the talkative, and so goes the list. 

Watchers love to criticise others. It is the people in this group who don’t notice the good happenings in the society. They are the ones who love to sit back in their homes and curse others who are busy working so hard to progress in their lives.

Have you even seen how rowdy and rough a city can be in the morning between 8am and 10am in the morning? Have you noticed how people struggled to cramp into the commercial buses, trains and trams in hurry to get earlier to their offices. If you are like me, you will understand faster. The way this throng of people are in the morning is the way I want you to compare this group; Watchers. They are so jam-packed that each of them tries to climb on top of another in an attempt to escape the group and the more an effort, the more the others pull the person back. It takes the grace of God to anyone in this group to escape out of it.

This is a congested and over-populated group. Do not try to join them. Watchers don’t care about getting out of bed even at 10am in the morning on week days. Watchers don’t bother about how to invest for their families. Watchers are the one who enjoy gossips beyond doubt. Watchers don’t think of repaying their debts, rather, they would fight with the creditors as if these persons made mistakes lending them the money in the first instance. Watchers love to waste, they love to bring you down and that is if you allow them.

Watchers are the one who will advice you on how to rule your house, they will advise you on how to handle your children, and they will even go a mile to warn you about confiding in your wife or husband.

Be careful, Friend, so that if you have a friend with the same above description, then I implore you to flee.    

If you are not aware of this, then note this; a Watcher-friend will never be genuinely happy if you are successfully above him or her in all areas of your life.

What then must you do to get rid of Watchers in your life?

Wait until next edition.

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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A SINGLE DROP OF LIFE

 

Dear friend,

 

Greetings from Takt Residency in Berlin, Germany and feel free to check my events via this link;

http://www.princessayelotanwithtakt.wordpress.com

 

Now back to the topic;

Friend, do you know that life happens to each of us differently? Yesterday, I was writing when a thought came to my mind but I waved it aside because this was personal.

Then this morning, I thought over it again and that got me thinking that I need to share it with you.  I have had many people asking me, ‘Princess, how did you do this or how were you able to get that?’ They are people who care to know and I bet they mean well.  And on the other side, there are these groups of folks who don’t or can’t just understand why someone should be different from them.

A friend of mine once called this; envy.  

To live your life worrying over another person’s achievement is a mere waste. I think you can make use of those times preciously.

Do you know what brings success to someone? It is not a gift that drops down like magic from the sky.  It is that person’s ability to define what he wants for his life. To be successful in every area of your life demands your entire commitment. I don’t believe that some people do not possess the ability to be successful. What I have faith in is that everybody can have a promising life but this comes with tangible prices.

There are four groups of people in life;

1)       Achievers

2)      Steady-troopers

3)      Generation Next

4)      Watchers.  

Among these groups is Watchers, the most troublesome and lousy group, who enjoy criticising the other three groups.  This group holds the largest population of people throughout the world.  They are down, down, in the low level and they tend to see the other three above them as exploiters. The Watchers don’t see anything good when talking about the other three groups.

And do you know why you must flee from joining this Watchers groups?

Watch out for the second part………………

 

Cheers

 

Princess Ayelotan

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FINDING LOVE IN THE FACE OF NOTHING (2)

 

In the last edition, I mentioned how as a family we all supported my sister during her ordeals. I wonder how many people can stand the test of time by supporting one of theirs at the moments of needs.

This is not to say that everybody is not capable of doing such but the major truth is that there are so many people out there who don’t care if at all one of them is ill or not. They may be aware of that beloved one(s) in urgent need of attention but they will not respond. It may be an act of wickedness or just being ignorant of what it means to care for someone whom we love and who is in dire need of us.

For the next sixteen years while she suffered and battled this sickness, we were there for her. Four years ago, she went to be with the lord. We all missed her but one strong point she left with all us is to extend our affection for everybody who crosses our paths.

We learnt so much while with her. You know even those taking care of the sick ones are equally affected one way or the other even if they did not realized this. The short period she spent with us was not for nothing; it established such strong bond that nobody can dare intrudes.

Have you ever seen someone who tries not to identify himself with a handicap in his household? What comes to your mind if at all you knew such person? Can you be in the same position and thus you tend to do the same?  Tell me, what does life means to you when it comes to taking care of someone you love?

In my entire life, I have witnessed where tens of people tried as much as they could to avoid carrying any responsibilities. I have seen a family who went off to drop their old one at a home for old folks because they just feel that old woman is a burden.

I have heard of mothers self-handedly murdered their handicap children because they are ashamed of living with them. Also I have seen husband who divorced his wife immediately the moment he discovered she has breast cancer.

You want my word on this?  It is very simple; love, love and love your sick ones!

Don’t be shy to show off any sick member of your family to the world if the need arises. Show them love. Let them know that you truly care for them and that you accept them being part of your family.

When you reject them or you try to hide them from public eye, then you are telling them clearly that they don’t belong to the outer world. It equally means that you are indirectly telling them that they made the greatest mistakes of being born. That alone can worsen their situations in some cases.

Many people have committed suicide when they found out that none of their family members love to see them around. Many sick ones have lost hope of recovery because they were made to understand that they don’t belong.

People who are disabled or sick in anyway don’t just get that problem by themselves. Life happens to anybody just about anyhow. You are just lucky that you are hale and healthy.

Why don’t you get into the habit of making life happy and possible for your sick ones and those around in your world?

When you commit your life to putting smile on other people’s faces, more happiness and fulfillment in life will be yours. There is no doubt about this.

 

Cheers!

 

Princess Ayelotan

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MOVING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

 

Dear friend,

I would like to offer my deepest apology for this short silent. I was down with the cold. Here in France, this year’s winter is the worst since the past years. The cold becomes unbearable, the snow falls without pity, it rains almost daily, there is hardly the sun shine, once you look out through your window, and you won’t feel the urge to leave your house.

The point is; if you don’t want to go out, that means you will be absent from your job and that will resolved into big problem. Everybody here has no choice than to move out of their home. It’s so funny and frightening when you watch people’s faces everywhere you go. They showed they just cannot tolerate the cold.

And that got me thinking so much about those of us that are lucky to have roofs over our head.  There are hundreds of people right there on the street without any shelter, without any warmth, not even alimentation.  Paris is a beautiful city. Truly I have no doubt neither can I argue when everybody compliment the city to be the CITY OF LIGHT.

On the other side of it, Paris accommodates tens of people who are known as street-outs. Each day, you notice these people hanging out at the corner of the streets, in the metros, on the railway stations, at the markets and even at the super stores.  Once the night falls, and the super stores are shut up for the day, these street-outs will go right in front of the long corridors of the stores and place their camps there for the nights.

This has been going on for years. I feel so terrible and worried for them. A situation like this cannot be handled by a single person, not in a city like Paris.

If this is not possible, then it doesn’t mean that there are no other ways by which one cannot show concern. This is a message for you and I. Paris is not the only city that harbours such people. In all cities across the globe, lots and lots of them are there, and in dire needs.

You may have seen them in your community, in your markets, or near your office. I am sure there were days you have been touched by their flights. I can bet that deep down in your heart, you must have felt the urge to go beyond your boundaries to assist these people. Maybe someone must have spoken about a particular street-out in urgent need to you.

Why not take out this SPECIAL VALENTINE coming up on Saturday and extend your warmth and love to one of these people?  Valentine is NOT solely for lovers. Do not let that traditional idea blocks your image that you will not be able to see beyond that.

Go closer to them. I don’t mean you show walk right into them (Some of them may turn defensive). Begin from today.  Walk passes them in a calm way. Don’t be in a hurry. As you walk by, put your eyes to work. Let your eyeballs roll with speed but gentleness as you select one among them that you are definitely sure will be YOUR valentine.  It may be a woman with a child. It may the either the mother or her child. It may even be a man. Just make your choice.

Then go choose your gift & wrapped it beautifully. Wait until 14^TH February, and be timing to know when YOUR valentine WILL be there.  Set out with that fixed confidence in your heart. Put on a relax smile as you reach there. DO NOT SHOW FEAR. Once you are there, greet them all warmly, and FIX YOUR EYES ON YOUR VALENTINE. (By doing that, other will know you are there specifically for that person).Then bring out your gift (still wrapped up) and give it to YOUR valentine.

LISTEN! By this act, you may not be aware of this but you have shown a SINGLE SOUL how special he or she is. Won’t you be glad to do that?

Do you allow this valentine to go away without YOU being special to the STREET-OUTS! They need your love.

I wish you the best of the Valentine!

Cheers

Princess Ayelotan

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A GUN IN THE SPACE

 

Are you the type that usually sees your faults in other people’s angle? Are you still there blaming others for your failures?

Majority of the people in the entire world have lived with the belief that those around them are responsible for their failures. They have refused to check themselves and discover where they are wrong. What you failed to understand is accusing another people for putting you where you are right now means a sign of weakness.

If you are the type who cannot accept responsibilities for your wrongs, then I am here to let you know that you will never go far in your life if you keep on this way. Learning to take charge of your life is very important.

Tell me, for how long will you keep on blaming your loved ones, your friends and your colleagues for bringing you to the current position you are?

It is high time you woke up to the realization that you are the author of your life.  You are where you are right now as results of your thoughts and decisions. Stop blaming anyone when you commit an atrocity. Stand and owe up! 

Why not take out the day today to sit in a quiet spot and thoroughly look into the mirror of your life. You will definitely discover so much in you that you need to rectify.

 

Cheers!

Princess Ayelotan

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